Romantic Dating

Should you offer flowers on a first date? Well, there is really nothing wrong with it. Despite what many guys think (and florists want you to think) all women aren't into flowers. But what most people, men and women, do like is that someone took some extra time to think of them.

That is why flowers on a first date is almost always a good idea. It shows that you are looking forward to the date and that you thought it worth a little extra time and effort.

I was reading an article and it said not to buy a bunch of red roses for a first date. The reason it gave for that is valid; you don't want to waste a lot of money if the date doesn't work out.

But to me, that is only part of the reason. Another reason that is just as good, probably even better, is that a dozen red roses is actually coming on pretty strong.

Some women may actually view that in a bad light if you do it on a first date. You see red roses are a sign of love. When you show up with a dozen red roses for a first date that can really seem intimidating.

She will know you spent a lot of money and it may just seem like too much too soon. So, if not a dozen roses, then what? What types of flowers will let her know you are interested in her without coming on too strong?

Keep reading and I will give you some ideas that may work for you and your date:

1. The first one is pretty obvious, if you know she has a favorite flower start there. Even if her favorite flower is a rose (which mine is because I love the way they smell) you still don't have to get her a dozen and they don't need to be red.

You can start with a single rose. Or you can buy a bouquet that is a mix with a few roses thrown in. Much less expensive for you and much less (potentially) intimidating for her.

2. A bunch of wildflowers is a great idea in the spring and summer. The casualness of it can be a great middle ground. You are letting her know that you think she, and your date, are worth a little effort but you aren't coming on too strong.

One word of caution here though, many people suffer from allergies so you do need to be careful with wildflowers or any type of flowers.

3. A live plant may be appropriate too. True, this isn't as romantic of a gesture but if you know she is into gardening it may be appropriate.

4. Who is this woman? That sounds like an odd question and if it is a first date you may not really know yet, but one of the biggest mistakes men make is they listen to the t.v. too much.

The jewelers and florists who advertise on t.v. like to make men think that all women love chocolate, shoes, jewelry and flowers. That is not necessarily the case.

It's always best to take the personality of the woman you are going out with into consideration. Don't fall into the trap of stereotyping your date.

So, giving flowers on a first date is not a bad idea at all. Just make sure you strike the right balance and try to take her personality into account as much as you are able to at this early stage of the relationship.