Romantic Dating

Two people never start out thinking their relationship will end. Just the opposite in fact, they think that the love they feel for each other will last a lifetime. It takes two to make a relationship and it takes two to fight and break one down.

One thing that all couples should realize is that although it takes two to fight that does not mean that the love has to be gone. It has just changed.

To me, fighting is about many different things. It could just be insecurities coming to the forefront or it could be all about differing opinions on how a relationship is "supposed" to be.

You don't have to be joined at the hip all of the time just because you are a couple. Some people see this differently and think that they should go everywhere the other one goes all of the time.

Think about it, if you go everywhere the other one does, how could you possibly continue to have anything to talk about? The relationship will get stale and boring after a while and lead to more and more fights.

Each of you should keep some level of independence separate and apart from your relationship to keep bringing in new and exciting stories and experiences to share with each other.

On the contrary, there are the couples who fight because one is always gone either working or spending time with friends. Neglect in a relationship will most likely be a deal breaker and the relationship will soon be over.

Other reasons for fighting in a relationship usually have to do with money and how it gets spent or saved. These types of problems may take quite a bit of time to resolve especially if one of you is a spender and the other is a saver.

This is where a compromise is usually the best bet to resolution. If you combine your income, come up with a way to give the spender an allowance of sorts so they feel like they have some control or compromise on how much you "put away" every month so the saver can still be happy as well.

Relationships that are successful are mostly about coming up with compromises that work well for both sides. Any good relationship counselor will tell you this. When you reach the point where compromise comes easily you will wonder why you spent so much time at each other's throats.

Being in love and learning to live together is a wonderful thing to experience but it is a process. If it wasn't then you would never see any couple married for 30, 40, 50, or more years.

The process of making a relationship work should start with the two of you sitting down and discussing how the money gets spent and anything else that may cause strife.

Work it out before it becomes a problem and set the rules if there is a differing of opinion and leave it takes two to fight right out of the equation.